tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4018776856305219620.post3032163212330954460..comments2023-08-08T11:18:19.165-04:00Comments on Keeping Up With No One: all or nothingKathyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13487456316176375454noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4018776856305219620.post-71892429109785079372012-09-21T14:21:03.869-04:002012-09-21T14:21:03.869-04:00Lady... sometimes I feel the same way. Six years ...Lady... sometimes I feel the same way. Six years of school and almost 4 years of working at job I really do not enjoy, has made me assess all the decisions I have ever made. For me it was economical decisions (which ruined my credit), educational, professional, etc. You get my drift. I really thought I would have done something more with my life- like something to show for myself.... Then again, I remind myself that "almost thirty" doesn't mean that I should roll over and die...we all have our own ways of setting goals and assessing them. From sitting behind you I know that you have became more conscious about spending... I hear you- not only talk about it, but also put it into practice. Chin up!Justify Justicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07096775516477825304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4018776856305219620.post-61559997598427890222012-09-21T13:03:50.462-04:002012-09-21T13:03:50.462-04:00You give me more credit than I deserve! I definit...You give me more credit than I deserve! I definitely have a perfectionist streak, but it *very* easily turns into that "all or nothing" mentality. The difference is that I lean toward "all," which at times meant doing crazy stuff like cleaning the apartment in the middle of the night or skipping meals so I could wash the dirty dishes in the sink when I didn't have time for both. I actually saw a therapist about it for a bit, and learned that I've had some fairly significant obsessive-compulsive issues that go back to the time I was a toddler, but to an outsider I just seem very responsible, conscientious, etc. so issues like these typically go undiagnosed - they're positive traits taken to an unhealthy extreme. I also read a very interesting book called Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control. Described me perfectly. I highly recommend it if you find you struggle with unhealthy levels of perfectionism.<br /><br />And from a financial perspective, this perfectionism was actually hurting our retirement savings, because I would have a goal for how much to put into the IRAs each month, and if I didn't have the full amount, I'd decide to wait until I had it to make the transfer, and next thing I knew it would be the next month, and I'd skipped a whole month of contributions. I finally decided it was better to make a lower contribution that month than none at all, so now even if we don't quite meet our goals, we get a heck of a lot closer!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15010899773028369679noreply@blogger.com